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Mar 10, 2025

Armie Hammer Used Grindr to Try Gay Sex Because “Women Are the Worst” | Them

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This article contains discussion of alleged sexual abuse.

The inner machinations of Armie Hammer’s mind continue to be an enigma, no less so after the allegedly abusive actor “joked” on his podcast this week that he once tried to have sex with another man because “women are the worst.”

Speaking with actress and casting director Dani Druz on his podcast Monday, Hammer recounted his experience “hooking up with a dude” because “I was like, ‘You know what, women are the worst. Gay dudes seem to have it so easy, like, so easy.’”

Gay dudes, like all LGBTQ+ people, notably do not have it super easy, especially right now — but Hammer was likely referring specifically to his perception of how easy it is to use Grindr to get one’s dick sucked in a restaurant bathroom. “‘Maybe this actually works for me. Let’s give it a try,’” he recalled thinking.

But despite the purported ease with which the Call Me by Your Name actor arranged said hookup, the actual experience did nothing for him.

“I remember like, we were making out and it was kind of getting hotter and heavier, but I was like, not even a twitch, and I was going through the motions, and like not feeling anything,” he said. “I was like, ‘You’re not going to touch my flaccid penis.’”

Let’s be totally clear: We at Them are big fans of both exploring one’s own sexuality and recreational trysts, and it’s normal to realize you’re not into something (or someone!) mid-hookup. But it’s not really a surprise that Hammer came away cold from this encounter given how he expressed more interest in having easy access to sex and avoiding women, apparently “the worst,” than he did in pursuing any inherent desires, if there are any. (Hammer’s story was told in the context of Druz’s own remarks about being “bi-curious” but apathetic about her past experiences, and not feeling actively attracted to women.)

Then again, Hammer’s comments are also colored by the sexual and emotional abuse allegations made against him by at least three women since 2021. The various allegations ranged from a pattern of sexual coercion, in which the alleged victims said Hammer pressured them to engage in unwanted sex acts, to Hammer’s alleged fantasy of cooking and eating a partner’s rib.

In 2023, Hammer said in an interview “that I was an asshole, that I was selfish, that I used people to make me feel better, and when I was done, moved on. And treated people more poorly than they should have been treated.” But Hammer still denied all allegations of abuse, saying that although the “power dynamics were off,” all his relationships were “completely consensual,” and that he had never engaged in actualized cannibalism. The Los Angeles District Attorney dropped sexual assault charges against Hammer later that year, citing lack of evidence, and Hammer has continued to proclaim that he is not a cannibal in interviews since.

Lest there be any remaining confusion, kink is not abuse, and that includes more polarizing kinks and fantasies. But even taking him at his word — those words, again, being “women are the worst” — Hammer’s collection of red flags keeps expanding with every podcast episode. Grindr gays, might we suggest sending that tap somewhere else?

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